Hi, friends! Today, I want to spend some time reflecting on 2016. Before we get down to business, I hope that you all had a great Christmas. We had a wonderful one and I am so grateful to have such an amazing family.
Now that Christmas is over, my family is focused on getting ourselves organized and focused for an amazing 2017. As much as I love all of the decorations, I am one of those people that do not like to go into the new year with things undone. I always have to have all of my decorations put away, the house clean and organized and any outstanding items crossed off the to-do list. The fact that we are given a fresh start and a blank slate to start the year is so exhilarating. I have always been a goal-orientaed person and enjoy spending time creating goals to focus on in the new year.
This year, however, I wanted to take some time to reflect on 2016. All too often, I am so excited to start crushing my new goals that I do not time to take the time to reflect. This year has been a pretty monumental one for me and I thought it was very important to focus on all that I have learned.. It is equally important to focus on some areas that I know I was not as successful at.
While I have accomplished a lot that I am proud of, I am ending the year uncertain of where the upcoming year may take me. On a similar note, I am excited by the opportunity of the unknown. I will be sharing more details in 2017, but I am mapping out some big changes for my life in 2017.
Top 5 Things I Learned in 2016
Parenting is the Hardest Job Ever
I have not shared a lot with you about my daughter’s health issues, but we are still working through some nutrient deficiencies . These deficiencies have negatively impacted her behavior. She can be very moody and irrational. You add hormone changes to the list and it has been a fun year!
I have read so many books and articles, hoping for the magic formula but have not had a whole lot of success. She is slowly finding her way, but I know it is still going to be a long road. I sometimes just feel like giving in, but clearly that is not the right thing to do. I oftentimes feel like a failure in this area. It does not help matters that I was a teacher and feel like I should be an “expert” in children. If I do happen to crack the parenting code in 2017, you will be the first to know!
A Job is Only a Job
This past year has definitely been the most challenging career-wise. For the last several years, I have done everything I can to grow my career. I used to think that I wanted to do everything it took to move up the corporate ladder. Unfortunately, this often meant that I was putting my career ahead of my family. This year, I have decided that I need to put my family first. Truthfully, I am disappointed in myself that I ever considered anything otherwise.
While I am confident that I am still a top performer at work, I have changed my focus this year. As counterintuitive as this sounds, putting myself and my family first has actually resulted in increased productivity at work. I wish I could say that the increased productivity has paid off. Currently, I am at a place where I really have to do some soul searching to determine my future career path. I would have to move to get a promotion and I am not sure that is what I want to do at this point in my life. Plus, it would not only be my decision to make.
Don’t Take Anything for Granted
While my family has stayed relatively healthy, so many close to us have dealt with illness in 2016. My family does a pretty good job eating healthy and I exercise on a fairly regular basis. However, it seems like these days even that is not enough. I lost a childhood friend to cancer and had a very close friend who had to bury her child due to cancer. While it breaks my heart to see others suffering, it is also a reminder to appreciate the life that you do have. I have incorporate some meditation, journaling and gratitude exercises into my life and have certainly spent a great deal of time reflecting on my health and the life that I have. While we are dealing with some health struggles, it is nothing in comparison to what some others are going through.
Importance of Acceptance
You cannot reflect on 2016 without thinking about the election. I am not going to get into a political conversation, but the election was definitely was an eye opener for me. My kids have always been taught to respect others and I saw quite the opposite during the election. I knew that I needed to have a conversation with my children. We spent some time discussing how to handle situations in which others have a different viewpoint than you. While this is a value that we talk about on a pretty regular basis, we spent a lot more time addressing this year. I am determined to raise my children that treat everyone and everything with respect.
Life is Way Too Short
I think it goes without saying that 2016 has gone way too fast! My values have been out of whack the last few years and I would really like for time to slow down. My daughter will be going into middle school next year and I do not know where the time has gone. I have some goals set for 2017 that will allow me to live my life to the fullest.
I am very excited for 2017 and am confident that it is going to be my best year yet! Thank you for being on this journey with me. I hope you have enjoyed the ride just as much as I have. I am looking forward to our new adventures in 2017. Happy New Year!
What lessons have you learned in 2016?